I find it interesting that people say “oh when are you starting a family?” when speaking to married couples. Are they not a family just the two of them? Do they not qualify as a family if they can’t or don’t want to have children?

People make up families all kinds of different ways. If I am a single individual in my mid-thirties, do I not have a family because I am not married with children? I’d like to count parents, siblings, cousins, and close friends who I consider family but the phrase excludes people like me. Frankly it makes me feel less of a person because I by virtue of the phrase — do not have a family.